Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barkaatuhu my
dear daughter,
You see my dear girl; you have to learn to be a
positive person, someone who sees with the right eye first in all situations.
You have to be someone who pushes others to goodness. It is fulfilling. It is
satisfying. Your heart will feel this calm when you know that others have
learnt goodness from you.
There are so many people in this world whose spirit of
goodness to some degree has been killed by bitter and negative people. Their
words are bitter and their every attitude is bitter. They do not encourage others
to good actions even though Allah azza wa jal tells us clearly to enjoin
goodness. So, today, I tell you a story of how my irreplaceable mother led me
to think virginity, chastity, purity and spirituality. Keep smiling to Jannah!
It is indeed very fascinating how a mother could cause
such lovely feelings in the heart and mind of her daughter with sometimes very
simple comments.
Since childhood until she grew older, her mother will
constantly tell her;
‘When you pray,
remember to pray for us too. You know, the prayer of people like you is quickly
answered by Allah because you are a virgin and pure. You have a clean heart and
you are a good girl.’
Sometimes she will say;
‘You do not know a
man.’
At other times, she will say;
‘You do not have
dirt on you.’
These she says to mean that her daughter had not
fornicated so she is clean in the sight of Allah azza wa jal. Coupled with the
fact that she believed her daughter had a clean heart due to her nature; she
made her daughter believe that she was
of great value to Allah azza wa jal; so when she prayed to Him, Al-Mujeeb, He
will surely answer.
Her daughter smiled anytime her mother mentioned these
things. She wondered how her mother could tell that she was a virgin with such
surety…Oh yes! She was simply CERTAIN! (Smile to Jannah). But of course, she
knew her mother had a lot of experience in life and so she probably had her own
way of ‘telling.’
These simple and interesting comments went a long way.
Even though her daughter tried her very best to keep herself away from ‘zina’
‘fornication;’ and also keep her heat clean because she grew to know and
understand that Allah azza wa jal wanted His servants that way; her mother’s
constant comments on her virginity and purity and how it betters her
relationship with Allah, Ar-Rahmaan; made her a lot more determined to keep
that virginity and purity no matter what. Of course, with Allah azza wa jal’s
guidance. Allah, Al-Quddus, abhors ‘zina.’ He says;
‘And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse.
Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.’
(Surat Al-‘Isra’, the Journey by Night, Chapter 17 ayah
32)
He, azza wa jal, also makes us understand the essence
of a ‘Qalbun Saleem’ ‘Sound heart,’ to a Muslim. He, subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa
says;
‘The Day when there will not benefit anyone wealth or
children. But only one who comes to Allah with a ‘sound heart’ ‘Qalbun Saleem’.’
(Surat Ash-Shu’ara’, the Poets, Chapter 26 ayah 88 to
89)
Her mother’s comments gave her the understanding that
as much as she tried to keep this purity of her body and cleanliness of her
heart, the connection between she and Allah azza wa jal will keep getting
better and better with time. So, as her mother’s words echoed in her head most
of the time, she was encouraged to keep purifying her body; sticking to
chastity and modesty and cleaning her heart for a better status before Allah,
Al-Aziz; - her spirituality. Allah, subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa says that He loves
those who purify themselves;
‘…Within it are men who love to purify themselves; and
Allah loves those who purify themselves.’
(Surat At-Taubah, the Repentance, Chapter 9 ayah 108)
To My Daughter with
Love
You may have been lucky to have had someone in your
life (not necessarily a mother), whose positive comments have led to so much
goodness in your life. Be grateful to and for such people and learn to be like
them to others also.
It may also be that you were not privileged with such a
positive person; instead, you had bitter people who say negative things to you
that had caused you so much in this life. Teach yourself to forgive them and
try hard not to let their words let you down. Try hard also to not be like them
to others. Allah, subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa, teaches us in few words the essence
of enjoining goodness and forbidding wrong. He, azza wa jal, says;
‘By Time! Indeed,
mankind is in loss, except for those
who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and
advised each other to patience.’
(Surat Al-Asr, the Time, Chapter 103)
You have to remember that as much as possible, try to
work on staying pure (if you have lost your virginity already, you can still
start now…smile) at all times; taking care of your modesty which includes how
you relate to men who aren’t family and how you carry yourself around this
life; your principles; your rules. All of that will help to give you some level
of spirituality which goes a long way to tell how much you are able to concentrate
on Allah azza wa jal; doing the things that He loves to see you do and leaving
that which He hates to see you do as much as possible. Building a connection
with Him, your Creator and the Creator of all else. Try hard! He, azza wa jal,
will help you.
Make your words, your heart and your soul beautiful.
Alhamdulillaah! Never stop striving to be a beautiful soul. May Allah,
Al-Mujeeb, gift us with the best of what He offers His servants in this Dunya
and the Akhirah. Aameen Rabbul ‘Aalameen. Jazaakumullaahu khair!
Love
fiisabilillaah
Rubaba Mmahajia Rahma Sabtiu
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